I wanted to know exactly which business I would scale next year and exactly what products and services I wanted to build on.
While on the surface this seems fair enoughâit's the end of the year, a time for reflection and refocus, and itâs typical of what most others running their own businesses doâdeep down, I was questioning my identity again.
I was trapped trying to 'figure out' who I am again, rather than focus on why Iâm here, which Iâm already clear on.
Since the end of September, Iâve been immersed in a program of deep reflection and journalling on a weekly basis. The program, facilitated by Dr Benjamin Hardy (author of multiple books, including 10x Is Easier Than 2x), has held the space Iâve needed to explore more deeply than I ever have what Iâm here to do.
Through a combination of his framework, journal prompts, and the deep and regular self-inquiry work I do independently, Iâve come to realise that my intrinsic motivation isnât to scale a business for the sake of scaling a business. Iâm not motivated by money; Iâm motivated by creating value.
What I realised a couple of months ago was that Iâm here to scale a message. Yet my ego was trying to maintain a polished image, the one that would be motivated by significance and looking good more than by service to others.
In truth, the message Iâm here to scale is about becoming a more authentic human and navigating that journey in life. The journey of becoming and making the contribution we each are here to make. That journey is often messy, unpolished, and involves a deep level of honesty with oneself. It involves accepting brutal truths about how weâve betrayed ourselves in pursuit of being accepted by others. Itâs a journey not for the faint of heart, but the journey I know deep inside Iâm travellingâand what I feel most able to speak from my heart about.
In understanding this, my energy is now much lighter than much of this week when I was in my head. The journey of becoming oneself, I know all too well, is not linear and often fraught with internal struggles.
Thatâs the work. The work we are all, to a greater or lesser extent, here to do.
Iâm feeling peaceful because the chatter in my head has quietened. The filter for my focus in both of my business ventures, Heart of Human and The Value Negotiator, along with my board work and consulting with non-profits, is that it needs to support people (and by extension, businesses) becoming the most authentic, truest expression of themselves and helping them make the contributions they seek to makeâmore powerfully and in a way that uplifts humanity and doesnât harm it.
Iâve found having space for reflection incredibly powerful, and in the new year, Iâll be opening a container for you to have your own space for reflection. Every fortnight, Iâll be available for Q&As and coaching as part of a group container. This will be open to both men and women as I want to hold space for anyone who wants to take the journey to becoming themselves.
If this piques your interest, drop me a line at [email protected] I'd be happy to have a conversation.
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