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#138: Glin & Tonic - You Can't Be What You Observe in Self-Transformation

by Glin Bayley
Jan 25, 2025
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I seem to be coming out of the other side of my first ego death of the year.

 

I say "first" because I know this is only the beginning. The year ahead is going to be one where I will experience a version of myself I have not yet met.

 

I'm excited to meet future Glin. She's the person I know I still aspire to be. She leads fully expressed with her six values: Creativity, Connection, Curiosity, Compassion, Care, and Contribution.

 

The work she does feels Expansive, Natural, Aligned, Like Home, and Inspiring. She stays connected to these feelings by remembering her own acronym for them: ENALI.

 

ENALI is the word she’s created to connect with her body. To remind herself how she wants life and work to feel.

 

ENALI is the anchor word that pulls her toward her truest expression of herself. The absence of it will serve as a reminder that she’s heading in the wrong direction.

 

I know I’m getting closer to meeting her. I’m continuing to make different choices and allowing myself to feel and embrace all the discomfort that comes with inner transformation.

 

Thanks to the first ego death of the year passing this week, it's been very peaceful.

 

While I've continued to make different choices, much like the week before, Nayla (my ego) has been quiet. As a result, it’s been a week where I’ve had space to acknowledge the highlights.

 

I share these with you to show that ordinary can feel extraordinary when you’re in alignment with yourself.

❤️ Sunday – I booked a five-day retreat in Byron Bay at the end of March/beginning of April to integrate my Human Design with Emma Dunwoody. I started truly embodying my Generator 1/3 profile mid-last year (even though I'd had a reading on it over 2 years ago). It’s transforming so much of the way I work and what I do. It's funny how we discover things years ago but don’t really pay much attention until we're ready to receive the wisdom intended for us.

 

🩷 Monday – I took a 9:15 AM Reformer Pilates class. This was huge because I’m consciously trying to break my attachment to the traditional, Industrial Revolution-inspired 9–5, Monday-to-Friday working week. This is what Nayla (my ego) was really feeling threatened by the week before.

 

🧡 Tuesday – I received a heart-nourishing thank-you from my client and friend, Kim Lombardi, after she executed the plan we co-created during our negotiation strategy session on Monday and achieved an incredible positive outcome with one of her clients.

 

💛 Wednesday – I attended a soul-inspiring business planning day with 12 beautiful women at The Calile Hotel in Brisbane. It was hosted by my lovely friend Melissa Marsden. This is where I uncovered ENALI, the five feelings, I wanted to experience in my work. It was also the space where I allowed myself to share openly with successful businesswomen that I wasn’t working on growing my business; I was working on becoming all of myself, because I knew my business would grow in alignment with who I'm being. This felt liberating.

 

💚 Thursday – I had a collaborative and transformative strategy session with the legends at the Manufacturing Excellence Forum (MEF). It’s a Not-for-Profit that's thinking big. I’m so excited and inspired by their vision of making the Sunshine Coast the Silicon Valley of Advanced Manufacturing in Australia. I’m already seeing that helping them to accelerate and elevate their impact and contribution feels so good. Working with the MEF team definitely felt ENALI. My work I'm seeing is all about contribution.

 

💙 Friday – Included an early morning beach walk with Noah, time to reflect, journal, and deepen my connection to the year I’m creating in 2025. My inner transformation is at the top of the list. I also took the opportunity to visit a beautiful garden centre and bought some gorgeous outdoor plants. I’m seeing that space and beauty are core ingredients of my future self.

 

As I look at how I'm spending my time and the work I'm doing, I can see I’m on a journey of reconnection to my authentic higher self.

 

The feelings I’m experiencing are now revealing how disconnected I’ve been from my true self since leaving corporate in 2018.

 

I remember all the excitement I felt and all the inner work I’d done from 2014-2017, and how connected to myself I felt just before I made the decision to leave my corporate career.

 

What I’m seeing now is that I lost that connection to myself when I replaced the corporate career hustle with my own business growth hustle. I’m seeing more clearly that I’ve been so focused on growing a business these last 7 years that I lost myself somewhere along the way.

 

   
   

I can see a lot of my energy, time, and financial resources have been directed towards this one goal – growing a sustainable business.

 

I can see now this wasn’t what I should have been focused on. Instead, I needed to stay focused on doing what made me feel ENALI (Expansive, Natural, Aligned, Like Home, Inspired) and embracing what filled my heart.

 

I’m not discounting the work I’ve done, the amazing clients I’ve worked with, the results they’ve had, and what I’ve achieved, but I can see it’s come from an energy of survival and fear, not from a place of true abundance and deep love.

 

I’m seeing now how I got caught up in the narrative of the culture we live in: hustle, be a successful entrepreneur, grow your business, make a fortune. None of this is bad, but it’s not aligned with me.

 

I needed to honour my own narrative and write my own story rather than doubt myself. I wanted to be free to be myself. I wanted others to feel this same freedom.

 

I wanted people to feel joy in their lives and work – because we all know how precious the time we have here really is.

 

I’m being very compassionate with myself as I continue to decondition from society’s expectations on who we should be and what we should do and how we should work.

 

I’m embracing the rollercoaster ride, and I’m allowing myself to choose again. To make a different choice now that can acknowledge I’m the observer, not the observed.

 

That I can go with ‘my own’ grain, even if to others it feels like going against ‘the’ grain.

 

I’m feeling lighter and freer than I’ve felt in a long time. Sometimes we have to get lost so we can show ourselves we can always find our way home.

 

What about you? What’s lighting up your week, sparking joy, or helping you connect to your vision for 2025?

 

Keep going and keep growing.

 

Love Glin x

💛

 

P.S. Three wins from my week:

1. First Ego Death - Realising I’d experienced and passed through my first ego death of the year. I know this because I’m making different choices, and I’m no longer feeling fear or resistance.

 

 

2. Seeing Clients Transform - I had two clients this week who stood out for making moves that scared them but took them closer to their desired future selves so they could achieve the impact and contribution they want to make. I’m seeing the flow-on effect of my inner work on them. The ripple effect is wild.

 

3. Embracing Space and Beauty - My study and garden are being transformed into my little sanctuary. I can see the impact of creating the right environment around me to support my transformation. It’s already having an anchoring effect for my new identity.

 

 

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